Saturday, August 23, 2014

New Job for a Dancer

My girlfriend is planning to quit working at a no extras club in a year.  She has worked there way too long - 10 years and she realizes she has to get out.  But she is scared to do this as she has not had a real job ever.

Any advice on how to make this transition easier?

Her first problem will probably be that her new job will be stricter about schedules.  One of the appeals of stripping for many women is that most clubs are not that strict about girls being on time and you can often take off a night or day whenever you feel like it.  It is not likely your girlfriend's new job will be that flexible.

She might make her transition easier if she works towards maintaining a rigid schedule in her strip job.

She will also have to develop a decent look for her makeup each day.  She probably won't be making herself up as much at her new job as does in the strip club.

She will have to understand a new kind of job performance.  Just what that will be will depend on what her new job is but it will certainly not be the same as selling a certain number of lap dances per shift.

She will have to remember that in her new job, she is not a woman to be ogled or fondled and she will have to not invite that.

Lastly, if her job involved interacting with the public, there may come a moment when someone comes in who will recognize her from her old job.  She will have to be prepared to deal with that and to not get flustered or panicked.  If she looks different enough, she might get away with denying tat she ever worked in a strip club.  If not, she may have to whisper to the customer and ask him to please keep her secret.

She probably will not want her new employers to know about her old employers and will have to have a good answer to the question of where she worked the last 10 years.

Sunday, August 17, 2014

Leaving the Girls Alone

I recently got fired from my job at a strip club on trumped up charges of sexually harassing entertainers.

The truth was the owner's friend needed a job and mine became available all of a sudden.

Did you ever deal with this situation in the past and how was it resolved.

I had to deal with employees sexually harassing dancers.  In those cases, the charges were not trumped up.  In one case, it was a guy who on his first week on the job began to saying to the girls "Suck my dick or I'll get you fired".  I had told him when he was hired that we didn't do that kind of thing but he thought that was just a speech I had to give for legal protection and I didn't expect it to be followed.

When I told him it was true, he looked at me like I was crazy and said "Why the fuck would I want to work here then"?

I did have the owner sometimes ask me to find a job for a friend or a relative but I never had to fire anyone to make room for them.  Those people never worked out, BTW.  In one case which I think I related here, the guy really began hitting on the girls and he had to go.

I don't know what to tell you about your situation except that you were probably fortunate to get out of that place.

Monday, August 11, 2014

Posting Schedules

My favorite club is a 40-minute drive from where I live. I am a regular, visiting 4-8 times per month, and I don’t have any one specific dancer I go to see. Rather, they all know that I will usually buy dances from multiple girls when I visit. As such, I try to time my visits so that I can see a variety of dancers during one trip, including at least a few of my favorites. Most nights there are 10 to 15 girls working, and when the club is really busy there might be as many as 25.

The club doesn’t post the dancer schedules on their site, and when I call I’m usually told that they can’t give me the entire list of dancers. The best they can do is let me ask about 3 or 4 specific dancers and they’ll tell me if those girls are currently at the club. And if the girls I ask about are not currently there, they will not answer questions about whether the girl is scheduled to come in later that night.

If I ask about 4 girls and none or even only 1 are working, then I usually decide not to make the drive. I hate going all that way for 1 great girl and 8 others who don’t interest me. But if they gave me the full lineup, I might decide that there were enough others who I find attractive to warrant driving all the way out there.

I’m thinking there must be a logical reason for this policy, as I’ve experienced it with other clubs as well, but I’m not sure what it might be. In my mind, providing the schedule is great marketing for the club, so I have trouble understanding why they wouldn’t want to actively promote it (on the website, through social media, etc.), and further why they actively try to keep the information from getting out.

Is it a case of the club management thinking that providing this information actually discourages visits? Is there a security/safety concern for the girls? Are they afraid that a husband/boyfriend or stalker is trying to monitor a girl’s schedule? I’m thinking it could be something along these lines, but then it wouldn’t make much sense given that they are willing to answer questions about specific girls, just not all the girls at once.

In my view, there are probably many customers like me who would show up more often if this information were readily available.

Thanks in advance for any comments and insight you can lend, and please keep up the great work with the blog!

There may not be a logical reason for this policy.  It may just be that the management is lazy.

If there is a reason, it is probably that the lineup is unimpressive.  Every manager knows that certain girls have regulars who come in to see them and other girls don't have much of a following.  If he tells you that there are only three girls in the second category working, you won't come in.  If he leaves it more of a mystery, there's a chance that you will come in.

It's not a safety concern for the girls.  If it was, no club would post lineups or answer phone questions.  If the dancer was afraid of a boyfriend or husband monitoring her schedule, the first thing she would do is change her dancer name.

The other problem is technical.  A lot of clubs haven't gotten around to setting up a website where they can easily post lineups.  They haven't even bothered to open a Twitter account.

Some of them don't want to post on ZBone or Boned In because they don't want the customers to be able to comment on the lineup or they don't want their customers going to those sites to read what other customers say about the club or the girls.

One of the clubs I visit is real sloppy about posting their lineups.  Sometimes they do and sometimes they don't.  If they don't and I call up and I'm polite, I can usually get someone to just read me the list.

The last time I did that, the person on the phone said they hadn't posted it yet because they were still waiting for certain girls who were late to get there.  He didn't want to put up a bad lineup and he was waiting until it got good enough to post.

P.S. If I were running a club today, I would post and update lineups constantly.  I would have a Twitter account and I would have my managers send a tweet whenever even one new girl showed up to work.  Think of it as an excuse to send a free ad out to people who have indicated they are interested in your product.  Why not send them five or ten free ads a day?  I would set up my club website so all the tweets were posted there automatically also.

Deja Vu North Hollywood has recently set up their site so it shows you a live feed of the girls dancing on the stage and you can watch for free.  There are some issues with this.  Some of the best girls left because of it but one good thing is that the site is constantly updated to show which girls are working at the moment.  Anyone considering going there can go to the site and know pretty much who is there at the moment and can even see some of the girls.  This is the best possible real time roll call and I'll bet it is helping their business.  I do not recommend all clubs put live video on the web but I do think they should have good real time roll calls.

Saturday, August 9, 2014


My local club in Ohio has $10 cover charge, but they hand out free passes enough that I don't really have to pay for that.  Dances are $30 each.  No drink minimum, and really no drink hustles.   Question: what kind of budget ($/month) I should plan on to have a decent experience?  How much would you spend for a good visit?  $200, $300, $400?

Well, this depends on what you can afford.  I make pretty good money so what I would spend may not be what some other guys would spend.

I think you have to decide what you want out of the experience.

One thing that has changed for me in the last few years is that I like having regular friends in clubs.  There was a time when I would go to a strip club and try to dance with a new girl each time.  Now, I am more likely to find someone I really like and go in to see her.  In the past, this has sometimes led to a relationship outside the club.

In those situations, you have to overspend a little.

Let me put it this way.  My business sometimes takes me to different cities, especially Indianapolis, Chicago and Atlanta.  I tend not to go a lot to strip clubs in those cities because there's no point in building up a personal relationship with a dancer since I won't be back there for another year or two.  If I do go to a strip club, I just get one-time dances.

In those situations, I figure on trying a few different girls out with one dance apiece and then to maybe have a long (3-5 dances) session with the one I like best.  So I would budget that visit for eight or so dances which at your club means $240.  Figure I would spend another $40 tipping girls on stage or servers and I would get a drink or two so $300.

I might have one or two hundred dollar bills in the secret compartment in my wallet just in case I find the sexiest woman I've ever met in my life but I would not plan on spending them.

I'm not going to tell you how much to spend a month because I don't know how many visits a month would satisfy you but I think $300 a visit is good number.  I don't spend my money that way in a strip club as often as I used to.

These days, I go to local clubs 2 or 3 times a month.  I almost always go to see one dancer who has caught my eye on a previous visit there.  I always plan to spend $200 to $225 on that dancer.  I will spend about $150 on dances with her and then give her the remainder as a tip.  If you add in stage tips and drinks and maybe test-driving one other dancer, you're back to $300.

This is all for a club that charges $30 a dance.  If a dance is $20, the $300 would be closer to $200.

Keep in mind that some clubs charge for parking or for admission or drinks may be more.  In some, you may get hustled into buying drinks for dancers or have to tip a men's room attendant.

I am aware that $300 is about what you might pay in some situations for a session with a hooker who will do more than any dancer.  This is one of the reasons business is down in strip clubs.  I personally choose not to spend money on hookers.  I don't criticize anyone who does.

Thursday, July 31, 2014

Interview with Kat, Part 3

There are other questions my readers like me to ask like, "Breasts, real or fake?"

Which do you think?

The safe answer is real because if they're fake, you'd feel complimented if I was wrong.  If I said fake and I'm wrong, you'll get insulted.

So which is it?

I'm going to go with fake.

That's what everyone thinks but they're not.  You can feel them if you don't believe me.

I believe you.  Hope you're not insulted.

No, just the opposite.  I think it's a compliment that God gave me what some women pay for.

Do you miss anything about dancing?

I miss the exercise.  I miss the other girls.  I miss certain guys.

How about giving blow jobs?

Well, I haven't given that up.  I just do it with guys I like.

Do you really enjoy giving blow jobs or is it just something you do to get men to talk to you?

[LAUGHS]  At first, I think I did it so they'd talk to me but yeah, now I really enjoy it.  I like feeling him get hard in my mouth.  I like driving him crazy, getting him to the point where he can't hold back.

So where does he get to come?

Well, in the club, it was usually in my mouth.  I mean, where else?  Anywhere else was messy.

Spit or swallow?

In the club, spit.  I kind of saved swallowing for guys I knew real well.  I'd always take some kleenex into the booth to spit into and to clean him up.  Oh, can I tell you about the whipped cream girl?


I was working at this club where the management was like, give blow jobs if you like but not with everyone, not with first-timers, not with guys who might be cops, you know.  The manager said, "I'll look the other way for one a night" so the girls who did it only did it once a shift or sometimes twice.  Well, there was this one girl.  Her dancer name was Molly, I think.  She was leaving in two weeks.  She was moving out of town.  So since this was her last two weeks, she said, "I'm going to make as much money as I can and I don't care if I get fired."  So she got this little can of whipped cream.  I never knew it came in such a small size but she had one.  Actually, I think she had a couple in her locker.  She'd go up to guys and offer to cover their dicks with whipped cream and lick it off.  I think she offered this to every guy in the club where it wouldn't mean cutting in on some other dancer's customer.

What did she charge for this valuable service?

Whatever she could get.  Well, no.  It had to be at least fifty dollars or so.  I think she'd start at $300 if the guy looked like he had it

Fifty dollars to do that sounds like a bargain.

Well, that's the thing.  Even if they agreed on fifty, she usually got a lot more because that just bought you the cream thing.  If you wanted her to lick you until you came, that was extra.

Ah, I get it.  She gets the guy as horny as possible and then she hits him with the extra charge to finish the job.

Yeah.  She said, "I didn't promise you could come in my mouth or anything.  I promised to lick the whipped cream off your dick."  She kept her promise.

And at that point, the guy's so horny, he'll shell out a lot more money to go the rest of the way.  Were some of the guys mad?

Some, I guess.  But she delivered what she promised for the price.

That's very clever.

She was risking getting fired but so what?  She was leaving there anyway.  She made a lot of money.

Now, I know which club this was and this was not a club known for high mileage and blow jobs.

No, I don't think so.

When a dancer comes in and starts doing a lot of that kind of thing, management may stop her because they're worried about getting busted but I've seen other dancers get real upset.  They don't want to be working at a club when it gets busted even if they didn't do anything.  And all the guys who come in start expecting the same thing from them.

Yeah.  For weeks after, I had guys coming in asking me if I did the whipped cream thing.  There was one guy she fucked who after she left couldn't understand that every girl there didn't fuck.

That's always a problem.  I talked to a girl who worked for a while in City of Industry.  Most of the customers who walk in the door assume every dancer in the City of Industry delivers full service.

Guys were always telling me that.  If I told them they couldn't pull their dicks out or get me to sit on them, they'd say, "I can do this at this place in City of Industry.  Why can't we do that here?" and I'd have to tell them, "Because this isn't City of Industry and if I wanted to do that kind of thing, I'd be working down there."

You're not the first dancer who's told me that.  Did you ever work down there?

Down there?  No.  Too far to drive.  And I wouldn't do anything down there I wouldn't do closer to home.  I didn't give every guy a blow job.

Let's say you give a guy a blow job and he comes in your mouth.  I'm talking now about a boy friend, not a customer in a strip club.  What can he do to return the favor?

Well, what I usually do with Jason is that I suck him until he's hard, then he fucks me until I come, then I finish the blow job off and he comes in my mouth.  Actually, he likes to come all over my face sometimes.

What else do you like?

Just about anything.  Fingers.  Licking.

Let's put it another way.  What can't he do to you?

What do you mean?

What might a guy, a lover want to do to you that would cause you to say no?

I'm not into pain or being tied up or spanked or anything like that.  I let a guy tie me up and fuck me once because it seemed to be so important to him and it was his birthday but I didn't get anything out of it.  I'm not really into role playing.  Like, a guy might say, "You be Gladys the Chambermaid and I'll be Mr. Jones, the rich mansion owner" or something and I'll say, "How about if you be you and I be me and we just make love?"

How about anal?

Once in a while.  Again, if it makes him happy.

And if it's his birthday?


Okay, how do I please you on your birthday?

Flowers.  A thoughtful gift.  We get dressed up and we go somewhere really beautiful and fun.  Then we go to a beautiful bedroom somewhere, like in a hotel, and we sip fine wines and we undress slowly and we just kiss and hug and touch and give each other massages and then comes the sex.

What kind of sex?

Almost any kind.

What if a guy said, "It's your birthday so I'm going to order in a pizza and some beer and we're going to rip each other's clothes off and fuck for an hour"?

I could get into that.  Yeah.

Saturday, July 12, 2014

Interview with Kat, Part 2

Why did you start dancing?

A friend got me into it.  She was working at the Deja Vu downtown.  The one near the train station, two or three nights a week.  She had one of those jobs where you work at home.  She sold little crochet things and some weeks, she sold a lot of them and some weeks, none.  It was like the reason I stopped dancing.  She started because she needed another source of income but one where she could pick which weeks to work.  She told me about it and said, "If you ever need any extra income."  Well, at the time, I didn't.  I was going to school and my parents were still supporting me.  Anyway, one day my father had a financial crisis.  He got sued and got hit with a big bill and while he was still willing to support me, I decided I should do something to start paying my own way.  I had six weeks before I went off on a trip to Europe with some friends so it was like, "What can I do to earn some money for six weeks?"  Well, you can't get most jobs for that and then I thought of Ellen dancing.

Had you ever been in a strip club in your life?

Never.  I went into work with her the next night, just to see what it was like and I thought, "Yeah, I could do that."

Was there anything that appealed to you about the job other than the money?

At first, no.  But I kind of liked it.  I danced until I left on my trip and then when I came back, I moved out of my folks' house anyway because it was about time.  My dad still gave me money but dancing helped me out.  Finally, as things got rougher for him, I told him to stop giving me money and he did.  In fact, at one point, I loaned him three thousand dollars.

Did you think it was fun to be on stage naked with all these men drooling over you?

It was kind of like, "Gee, look what I had the courage to do."  Yeah, there was something fun about it.  I was at a party one night and everyone there knew what I did and most of the women were going, "Gee, I wish I had the guts and the self confidence to do that."

It sounds like you made good money.

I did for a while.  I had some wealthy guys who really liked me.  They came in a lot and each one was good for at least $500 a visit.

How many of them got blow jobs for that money?

Some, not all.

How about hand jobs?

All.  I mean, yeah.  I don't mind playing with dicks.  I think they're kind of fun.  I understand why men like to play with them.  My friend Dodie says they're like little pets.  They're cute and they're alive.

And they sometimes squirt all over you.

I had a guy who did that once.  I was playing with his dick and he came, like buckets.  I've never seen so much cum.  If he'd come in my mouth, I would have drowned.  He was real apologetic.  It was in my hair, on my face, on my tits, everywhere.  He gave me the biggest tip of my life.  I walked into the dressing room to clean up and the other girls there applauded me.  One of them asked, "Did that all come out of one dick?"

A lot of guys would be proud of that.

He was a rather shy looking guy.  One of the other dancers had done some porn films.  She said, "Jesus, if that guy was better looking, he could make a fortune."  The next time he came in, she offered to let him shoot all over her for the same tip.  I don't think she was as interested in the money as she was in just, you know, experiencing that.  I guess some girls are into that.

Were you ever approached about doing porn?

Every night, practically.

Real offers or some guy who claimed he was an agent and wanted to take you to his place to shoot test footage?

Who knows?  I wasn't interested.

You must have a story about a really weird customer.

Oh, shit.  Too many.  I had a guy who came in a few times who would tell me in great, explicit detail how he had masturbated thinking of me after our last dance.  He got real graphic describing this imaginary sex we'd had.

Was he waiting for you to say, "Hey, let's go to your place and do all that"?

Probably.  But he made it all sound real gross.

There are some questions my readers want me to ask like if you're 100% straight or bi or what?

Maybe 85% straight.  I prefer men but some women are, well, you know.

Hard to resist?

Something like that.

How old were you when you lost your virginity?

Seventeen.  We had a little circle of friends, six girls who got together a lot.  It was like a little club without a name and we told each other everything.  I was the only one who hadn't done it and they all said, "What are you waiting for?"  One of the girls, her name was Amy, she had an older brother I thought was real dreamy.  We had a pool party at their place one time and I saw him in his trunks and, wow.  But he had a girl friend and he was pretty steady with her.  So I said, when they asked what I was waiting for, "Some guy like Amy's brother."  Everyone laughed.  The next night, Amy called me and said, "If you're serious about my brother, he thinks you're real cute."  I got really scared.  He was in college or maybe he was about to graduate college.  That was it, I think.  Graduate college.  Anyway, she offered to set it up.  I said, "You didn't tell him that thing about losing my virginity to him, did you?"  She said no so I said, "Okay, set it up."  But she'd lied.  We went out to dinner and had a nice time.  Then we went for a walk through a park and he said to me, "So, I hear you're interested in losing your virginity."  I wanted to go to their house and kill Amy.  

Had he broken up with his girl friend or...

Well, that was it.  They hadn't.  He just liked the idea of taking my virginity.  This was a Friday night and he was going out with her on Saturday.  I felt really weird about it all.  Anyway, I told him I wasn't ready and he was real sweet about it and he took me home and kissed me and told if I was ever ready, he would be honored to be the one and I almost said, "Let's get it over with" but I chickened out.  I went upstairs to my room, flopped down on my bed and thought, "Shit, I should have done it."  So I called him the next day and I asked him to take me out again and do it and we did.  I picked a pretty good guy for my first time.

Did you see him again after that?

One other time.  I was so tense the first time I didn't enjoy it much.  I asked him to take me out again and could we have sex for just pleasure?  That was the first time I had an orgasm not from masturbating.

Were you a big masturbator before that?

I was and I still am.  When I was dancing, I did it on stage once.  It was like a dare.  We all did.

All the dancers?

It was late one night, like 2 AM or so.  There were six guys in the place.  I think there were seven dancers working.  One of them dared each of us to go up there, get naked right away and make ourselves come. One of the girls faked it and we all booed her.  But I did it for real.

What inspired this?

One of the girls was telling us that she knew a male stripper who worked at a gay club.  I guess the guys all wore g-strings but whatever, the last show of the night, the last time on stage, they'd all whip out their dicks and masturbate and actually come.  And they'd come in the mouth of whichever customer at ringside offered the biggest tip.

I'm not sure I believe that.

Whether it's true or not, it's a great story.


Saturday, July 5, 2014

Interview with Kat, Part 1

Kat was a dancer at local clubs in L.A. from about 2005 to 2010.  I used to see her at one club in particular and had the pleasure of dancing with her a few times.  She was what most guys would call a high mileage dancer and I thought she was quite beautiful.  She is still quite beautiful and could go back to dancing today if she wanted to but she doesn't want to.

Why did you quit?

I felt my life was in a rut.  I'm not the kind of person who can do the same thing, day in and day out.  I enjoyed dancing but it got to feel like doing the same thing, day in and day out.  Those clubs don't have windows.  There's no sense of time passing.  I would be working and I would suddenly have no idea what time it was.  I'd have to ask someone with a watch and if they said it was 2:00, I'd have to ask AM or PM?  I really lost track.  Sometimes, I would find myself thinking I was near the end of my shift and then find out I had just gotten there.

Was that the only thing that bothered you?

Well, the money.  It wasn't that it was low.  It was just so goddamn unpredictable.  One week, I'd make $1000 and the next week I'd make $300.  I had one week when I made $3000.  I'd look at a new car I wanted to buy and wonder if I could make the payments on it.  In the job I have now, I make less than I made on a good week dancing and more than I made on a bad week but it's predictable.  I know what I can afford and what I can't afford.

I assume on the better weeks, the extra money was because you were giving what they call high mileage dances.

Well, yes but the main difference came from who came in.  I had a couple of guys who tipped real well and when they came in, I did well.  But I couldn't control when they came in and when they didn't.  That was part of the problem.  I felt too much of my income was out of my control.  But it really wasn't just a money thing that caused me to give it up.  It was feeling I was going nowhere.  In my current profession, there's more room to advance and I always know what time it is.

I remember getting dances with you.  They very nice and not just because you went farther than the other girls.

Well, I didn't with everyone.

So I have to ask.  Why me?  But first, here's the question my readers want to know.  How often did you give blow jobs to customers?

Whenever I felt like it.

How often did you feel like it?

That was another unpredictable thing.

Once or twice a week?

More often than that.  Usually, once or twice a night.  But then sometimes, I'd go a week and not do that.  It depended a lot on who came in.  There were some guys I never did that with.

How many did you fuck in the club?

That's easy.  Zero.

You never had full sex with a customer?

In the club, no.

Outside the club?

Well, I dated a few guys.  I don't mean I took them to a motel and fucked them.  I never did that.  I mean real dating without being paid.

So it was easy for a customer to get into your mouth but not into your pussy?

No one got in down below.  And I wouldn't say it was easy to get into my mouth.  Most customers never did.  The ones who did just got in there often.

So once a guy got a blow job from you...?

Every time I blew a guy for the first time, I'd think do I want to blow this guy every time he comes in?  Because you know, once you do it with him, you kind of have to do it every time he comes in.

I think I know the answer to this but why blow jobs and not fucking?

You draw the line.  Sex...full sex, I decided to save that for boy friends.  It's more personal and it's also safer.  In a strip club, it was easier.  I also liked it.

You surprised me by not slipping a condom on me.

I had them.  I always had them in my purse.  I found a kind that didn't taste too much like rubber.  They had a little mint flavor to them.  You seemed clean.

Thank you.

That's a big thing with me.  Guys, if you're reading this, wash your dicks.  If you want a woman to put that thing in her mouth, wash it and then rinse it off so it doesn't taste like soap.  I'll suck your cock for an hour if it's clean.

Do you have any tips in case any women read this?

You had someone on your site.  I think it was your site who said "You have to enjoy it".  Well, I enjoy it.  You have to decide "I'm going to enjoy sucking on a guy's dick".  You can't think "Oh, I'm being a naughty girl.  Maybe I shouldn't".

Swallow? Spit?

It depends on my mood and the guy. Do guys really care?

Some do. I get the feeling more guys care about it when watching porn than care about it in real life. It's very sexy to see a woman do that but once you come, you aren't horny and when you aren't horny, you don't care. You usually are horny when watching porn. I had a girl friend once who as I got close, used to say, "I want to swallow your cum. Please cum for me so I can swallow your cum." That helped to make me cum but once I did, she just spit it out into a Kleenex and I didn't care. Hey, there's a good question. What can a guy say during sex that will help you to cum?

He can tell me how turned on he is. He can tell me how I'm the sexiest woman he's ever had.

During sex, most guys think the woman they're with is the sexiest woman they've ever had. So no fucking ever in the club?

No but you know, I wouldn't think of that as fucking. It wouldn't be about me getting off. In one of those cramped little booths with the guy fully dressed except his pants are down or his dick is out, that's not what I think of as fucking.

I interviewed another dancer who felt like you. In fact, I think I've talked to several who felt that way. Sex is something you do in a bed with foreplay and taking your time and both of you getting naked...


And no exchange of money.

Yeah. And I don't need to fuck in a strip club to show a guy a good time.

I think most males would be very happy to go to a club and get a blow job like you used to give. I should have asked you this. Are you married now?

No. Actually, I've never been married like standing in front of a preacher and saying, "I do." This one guy and I lived together for a few years but now we don't.

Any particular reason why?

I'd rather not talk about it. It had nothing to do with dancing.

Okay, tell me this. Did that guy get a lot of blow jobs?


Which did he like better? Blow jobs or fucking?

He had trouble making up his mind. "What would you like?" "I can't decide."

Did he know you'd been a dancer?

He knew me when I was a dancer. He was the friend of a guy I was dating when I was dancing. That guy and I broke up and years later, I ran into the friend in a Target store and we got to talking and we started going out.

Did he ever get a blow job from you in the club?

No, because he was my boy friend's friend. He'd come in and get dances from any girl in the place except me.

I understand that.


Wednesday, June 25, 2014


I wonder if you have any comment on the lawsuit that has been filed against the Paradise Showgirls club in City of Industry.  Why would a club have a policy of refusing admission to single women?  Did you have that policy at the club you managed?

Here is a news item about this matter.

LOS ANGELES ( — An El Segundo woman is suing a strip club after she was allegedly barred from entering the establishment without being accompanied by a male.

Tamara Yatkin, 54, filed the complaint Friday in Los Angeles Superior Court against Paradise Showgirls located at 14310 Valley Blvd. in City of Industry.

According to the lawsuit, Yatkin went to the club on June 29, 2013, on the recommendation of a longtime customer. Upon her arrival, she asked the doorman about the cover charge and whether the club accepted discounts from other clubs, the lawsuit states.

After the doorman told Yatkin the price and asked her if she was alone, she was told “she had to be accompanied by a man to enter the club,” according to the lawsuit.

When an “incredulous” Yatkin asked the doorman if he was joking, the unidentified man replied, “It is policy,” the suit states.

According to the lawsuit, Yatkin “reassured the man that she was not a problem, that she was a lesbian who wanted to spend money and have a good time,” but the doorman refused to allow her to enter the club.

She is seeking an injunction preventing the club from requiring lesbians and other females to be accompanied by a man before they are allowed inside, as well as unspecified damages.

A representative of Paradise Showgirls was not immediately available for comment.

My first comment is that I went to that club a few years ago.  If it's still like it was then, anyone who is refused admittance is being done a great favor.

My second comment is that this sounds like something that will be settled very quickly.  The club will decide if it wants to change its policy.  If it does, they will issue an apology to Ms. Yatkin and offer her some compensation.  If she expects a lot of money, I think she will have a hard time proving she suffered much damage.  If it does not wish to change its policy, I think they will spend more money fighting the case than it would to settle and if they fight, they would have an uncertain outcome.

My club had no such policy.  We did admit unescorted women but I don't recall any who were there for lap dances or because they were Lesbians.  We had a few women who came to see friends dance and we had a number who came in to check out the place to see if they wanted to apply to work there.

I am not saying we never had a solo Lesbian customer.  We may have.  I wasn't there every minute.

If a woman had come in and wanted to pay the price and the drink minimum, I wouldn't have cared what her interest was as long as she was of legal age.  We did have dancers giving laps to women who came in with a boy friend or husband.

You ask why clubs would bar single women.  I heard two reasons from others in the business why some clubs had that policy.  One was a fear that hookers would come in and try to pick up guys to leave the club with them or meet them outside.  I have never heard of a case of that actually happening anywhere but maybe it did once somewhere.

The other reason I heard was that some managers were afraid it would make male customers uncomfortable to have a woman around competing with them for dancers.  I don't think that makes a lot of sense either.

It's a stupid policy.  It should be changed.  If Ms. Yatkin gets it changed there and discourages other clubs from having that policy then good for her.

Saturday, June 21, 2014

Being a Regular

Thank you for keeping this site, there is a lot of good advice here.  Over the last few months I have been visiting a strip club regularly.  I have been spending a decent amount of money and tip well.  The girls have started to notice.  I have been mostly seeing one girl, with occasionally getting dances from others.  What seems to be happening, is that  the other girls think that I am only interested in this one girl and seem to back-off on approaching me, specially since she does spend a lot of time with me, and basically doesn't leave me by myself.  The company is nice, but the dances aren't the best.   I have patience, and am not in a rush.

This brings up the question: if you are a regular, is it better to concentrate on one girl, or is it better (to get more mileage ) to have 2 or 3 or more girls, to make the girls compete a little.   Would a girl give you more mileage, if they feel/think that you only see them, and therefore, spend most of your money on them, and will trust you more?  Or will they do better if they had a little fear that they can lose your business?

It is better to concentrate on the girl you like the most.

Generally speaking, if a dancer is getting steady business from you, she will continue to give you the same dances.  If it ain't broke, don't fix it.

With most dancers, the mileage improves as they get to know you but you always have to remember that some girls have limits to how far they'll go.  A lot of them can't be pressed to go past that limit.  Sometimes, it is not a matter of trust.  You merely have to accept that this dancer or that dancer won't do what you wish they would do.

If one girl is monopolizing you and scaring the other dancers away, that can be a problem.  You might need to go in when that one girl is not working.  In most clubs, it is considered bad form for a dancer to try and move in on someone else's regular when she's there.

The lady I'm currently dating used to work at the Jet Strip and she happens to be here right now.  I just showed her your message and she said I should tell you that when she was dancing, she had a strict limit of how far she would go with any customer.  No amount of familiarity or even money would get her to go past that limit and she thinks most girls are like that.

A big mistake guys make with women is to assume they're all alike and if one dancer will blow you, they all will if the circumstances are right.  This is not true.  You sometimes have to accept that a dancer is not going to do what you want and move on to another dancer.

Monday, June 16, 2014

Unique Customers

I have been asked to recall some of the unusual customers who were seen in the strip club I managed.  Today, something some said to me reminded me of Harry the Panty Collector.

His name probably wasn't Harry.  I think that was just a name one of the girls gave him.  He was a plain looking man in his forties who would come in and offer to buy pieces of the dancers' outfits.  If a girl was wearing a bikini bottom, Harry would offer a good price for it.

We can all guess what he did with them.

He paid good money.  When the girls saw him come in, they would all race back to the dressing room and change into something they were willing to sell.  A couple of the girls had gone to a store called Pic & Save that sold cheap junk and they'd bought a lot of bikini briefs for 50 cents or a dollar each.  They could sell a pair to Harry for $50.

Nice profit.

I don't remember much more about him.  Over a year, he probably bought between 30 and 40 briefs from dancers.  Once in a while, he would buy the whole outfit but usually it was just the bottoms.  He would make the deal with a dancer and then the next time she was on stage, when she took off her bottom, she would throw it to Harry.  I wonder if he still has them all.